Dating Day

Galatians 6 has many good examples of community—I encourage you to read it. Galatians 6:2 (NLT) says, “Share each other’s burdens, and in this way obey the law of Christ. If you think you are too important to help someone, you are only fooling yourself. You are not that important.”

While I understand the beauty and value of being in a community and sharing each other’s burdens, the appeal fades when I realize that vulnerability ensures pain. Humility requires giving more than we take, and service requires surrendering what we think we need. Submitting yourself to a life of service to the kingdom means you will be inconvenienced.

Beyond knowing that community requires vulnerability, humility, and service, we must know how to implement these characteristics; otherwise, they are empty words. James 5:16 (NLT) says, “Confess your sins to each other and pray for each other so that you may be healed. The earnest prayer of a righteous person has great power and produces wonderful results.” To confess requires vulnerability and humility, and it’s there that we find results. How can we expect to grow and glorify God without confessing our struggles or sins?

Acts 2:42 (NLT) shares a picture of true community: “All the believers devoted themselves to the apostles’ teaching, and to fellowship, and to sharing in meals (including the Lord’s Supper), and to prayer.” Once these people accepted the gospel message, they started doing life together; they served one another. Today’s church slightly resembles this original church, but we have a long way to go. They modeled humility and service to one another by sharing food and resources. Living, traveling, and sharing your belongings with other people you just met implies vulnerability and trust that God will take care of you.

What Hinders Community in the Church

In forty-four years, I’ve seen something consistent in the church that hinders true community. We may have great discussions about being honest with our struggles or hardships, but there’s also a stiffness around its practicality.

Many times, after sharing a struggle or being honest about my emotions, I receive a message that says, “You’ll have to figure this out on your own.” People may offer to pray for me but may also look down on me because I need help. However, God says we will always need help because we aren’t Him. If we could break that cycle of shaming those who are brave enough to share their struggles, we’d begin to see true community.

When we encourage others to be honest with their struggles and then shame them for needing help, we send a very confusing message. I don’t think we intentionally do this, but maybe if we were aware, we could end the cycle.

We hinder our community when we choose pride over humility. No one likes to be humble. We want to shine, and we don’t want to be stepped on, but we are called to humility. God’s Word says that to follow Him we must be humble, and Jesus modeled humility even though He is God wrapped in flesh. (See James 4:10, Luke 14:11.) And Proverbs teaches that the humble gain wisdom and have the fear of the Lord (Prov. 11:2, 22:4). We want to have the fear of the Lord. If we don’t fear the Lord, we fear man; when we fear man, we make him our god.

“Don’t be selfish; don’t try to impress others. Be humble, thinking of others as better than yourselves. Don’t look out only for your own interests, but take an interest in others, too. You must have the same attitude that Christ Jesus had. Though he was God, he did not think of equality with God as something to cling to. Instead, he gave up his divine privileges; he took the humble position of a slave and was born as a human being. When he appeared in human form, he humbled himself in obedience to God and died a criminal’s death on a cross.” Philippians 2:3-8 (NLT)

We hinder our community when we are inauthentic. Instead of being honest about our lives with Christ, we put up walls. We value our privacy, homes, and families. I know that I do, and it’s because that’s what’s been modeled to me my entire life. It’s difficult to break away from. Could I live the way the early church did? I hope so, but it would be a tough transition. I am willing, but a vital element of community is that it involves other people. So, are we willing to let go of what we know and live as the Church?

I’m the first to admit that while I can be vulnerable by sharing what’s going on in my life, I’m better at securing what I think I need to be safe and secure. Most of us excel at protecting ourselves, even if the effort is futile. We only think we are protecting ourselves with our material and emotional safeguards. The hard truth is that God’s plans have been in motion since the beginning of time, and our options are to fall in line and experience God’s blessings along the way or struggle on our own with nothing to show for it in the end.

We hinder our community when we choose selfishness. We live in a time of extreme selfishness. We call it self-care, protecting our peace, or human rights, and I get it. Life is painful. I understand why we turn inward and demand that others make us feel good. We live in a fallen world, which means we have many hurts. I agree that hurt people hurt people; that famous phrase hits the nail on the head. Jesus understands why we turn inward, too; He has seen it from the beginning, the fall of man. But just because He understands doesn’t mean He celebrates our choice.

Humility strengthens the Spirit, and you may even see God move miraculously. Even though God gives grace to the humble and opposes the proud (James 4:6), our blessing may not be as tangible as we like. It’s experienced when we live with a kingdom mindset, so it’s no wonder we don’t see others clamoring for humility. Our culture loves instant gratification, quick fixes, status, security, and power, but those things won’t last when Jesus returns. It’s better to practice humbling ourselves now to please God.

Why Is Community Important?

Community is important because it’s part of God’s design for us. He never wanted us to do life alone. We can go back to the beginning of creation and see that God intended us to do life with the Father, Son, and Holy Spirit.

1 Corinthians 12:12-14 (NLT) tells us, “The human body has many parts, but the many parts make up one whole body. So it is with the body of Christ. Some of us are Jews, some are Gentiles, some are slaves, and some are free. But we have all been baptized into one body by one Spirit, and we all share the same Spirit.” It goes on to say that living as the Body of Christ creates harmony. Doesn’t that sound like a wonderful idea in our divided world?

Romans, Ephesians, Colossians, and Hebrews all refer to Christians as one body. Body parts stick together. The brain (Christ) tells us how to work, and when we listen, the body moves beautifully.

Living in a community as the Body of Christ requires a lot of surrender but so does following Jesus. I am thankful for the grace God has extended to us, and I’m not sure how many of us will succeed in living surrendered, humble, vulnerable lives serving Christ in the Kingdom, but I know we have to try. I know where to start, though. In communion with God in His Word. He’s laid the foundation, and all we need to do is take the time to study it and draw close to Him each day.

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Vanessa Luu is a wife, mother, and faith-based writer. She speaks and writes to believers to encourage them to live authentically with God.